The Day 9 Lesson is about feeling gratitude for your body. We did an awesome exercise on this with the Love Letter to Your Body, but now it’s time to transform your thoughts and start feeling good about your body every single day. Gala writes a great example of empowering thoughts and disempowering thoughts.
Disempowering: I’m doing squats at the gym & looking in the mirror, & I
think, ‘God, my thighs look enormous. I look so ugly, this is a total waste
of time. This is never going to make a difference!’
When I think this way, it saps my energy & drains me of my power. The
rest of the workout becomes painful, slow, arduous, & I’m looking at my
watch, hoping it ends soon. I am not psyched for my next training session!
Empowering: I’m doing push-ups at the gym & it’s killing me. I think,
‘God, this hurts!’ & then I think, ‘But man, I’m getting so strong! I’m
getting so much better! Go go Gala!’
This is an awesome example and I'm sure that we all have examples like this. I know that for me, I'll often get really tired and cranky when I'm hungry. I'll start to think, ugh, I'm so tired, I don't want to walk up the subway steps, my body is so weak and stupid, etc. But I should be listening to my body, nourishing it, and giving it energy instead of criticizing!
Obviously, the second way is a much more empowering way to think, and will create a cycle of energy and happiness instead of a slow decline into sadness and body hate.
The next time you find yourself thinking a negative thought about your body, try this:
- Acknowledge the thought.
- Recognize and accept that it is only a thought that you are having. It is not necessarily the truth in any way.
- Try to think of a way to spin that thought into a positive one!
Another great practice for every day is to try not to think negative thoughts about other people. Sometime I will catch myself thinking something mean about another woman, and then realize that it actually comes back to jealousy — maybe I was actually jealous of her. Or, I could be putting my own insecurities onto another person. Maybe you made fun of that person’s hair because you’re actually insecure about the amount of time it takes for you to make your hair look good in the morning. Once you own the way you look, it’s easy to appreciate the differences in people. You don’t know everyone’s story, they don’t know yours, so we should all be nice to each other, right?! Well, it starts with being kind to yourself. You are more clever, gorgeous, amazing, and in control than you realize. And so is everyone else!